In my adventures, one thing I do dislike coming across is the cockblocking friend. It’s something that’s ALWAYS discouraging, no matter how subtle or blatant. I can deal with cockblocking though, since it’s something that you have to chalk up to the Game and move on.
While cockblocking is bad, there’s something that I absolutely HATE:
Getting sandbagged (Definition Here)
Now, when I refer to “being sandbagged” I specifically mean that your girl’s friends (both female AND male) are trying to undermine your relationship with the girl via snide remarks or not-subtle “hints” about your supposedly shitty character when you’re not around.
Why would they sandbag? I don’t know exactly, but my experience with this has me drawing the following conclusions:
Either one of two scenarios:
(1) She hates your guts for some reason, is miserable and doesn’t want her friend to be happy either (similar to cockblocking mentality).
(2) She wants you, so she sabotages the relationship so you’ll get together with her instead (rare, in my experience).
Only scenario (non-homos only, homos fall into Female Friend category):
Guy has been LBJF’ed by your girl (and “accepts” it outwardly), is still in love with her (but won’t admit it), and white-knights hard for her (since you’re a shitty guy and if only she’d see that he’s so great!!! blah blah blah)
Personally, I was sandbagged in my relationship with FirstGF by one of my close friends (and one of her girlfriends who was fat and busted, if you’re wondering but that’s not important).
So, I’ve known this guy since kindergarten and we’ve been hanging out for a couple of years prior to me dating FirstGF. However, since she was in the social circle long before I was, “bros before hoes” didn’t apply for me and coupled to his pedestalization of her, didn’t bode well for the fledgling relationship.
He sandbagged me more and more over time, and so FirstGF and I later broke up as a result.
I can’t come up with a counter to the sandbag, since you’ll never be around when it happens. However, I do believe that having tight Game, where the girl is very into you, will have way of lessening the effect of this if it occurs.
The moral of the story? Game is important. Learn it. Practice it. Live it.