Omertà is an extreme form of loyalty and solidarity in the face of authority. One of its absolute tenets is that it is deeply demeaning and shameful to betray even one’s deadliest enemy to the authorities. – Omertà, Wikipedia
Cu è surdu, orbu e taci, campa cent’anni ‘mpaci (“He who is deaf, blind, and silent will live a hundred years in peace”). – Sicilian proverb
Omertà is an interesting concept that can and probably should be adopted by many in the Manosphere. As a code of honor, you don’t betray or talk about your fellow comrade-in-arms to your enemies.
Many guys, including myself, write under pseudonyms and are very protective of their identities. In the era of HR bitches Googling employees’ names or asking for their Facebook passwords, this is understandable because most have to work a normal 9-to-5 job to pay the bills and don’t have the option of being blatantly out in the open.
The topics we write about and the philosophy we want to promote is fairly controversial and overall strange in the eyes of mainstream society. Although this goes against common-sense and denies reality, you can and probably will lose your job for something you do in your personal time if someone disagrees with what you write.
Question: “What was probably the main reason why many really good Manosphere blogs have closed up over the years?”
Answer: The author(s) got outed.
Now it just could be being too fast and loose with detail in their writings (eg. Using a girl’s real name instead of a nickname, exact locations and names of places, recognizable pictures).
Or it could be the most egregious of sins, whereby another Manosphere denizen outs his fellow-man.
I don’t believe this is out of malice though. From what I’ve observed over the few years I’ve been around, it seems to have been the case of someone “name-dropping” the author’s real name or giving out some other contact information (address, phone number, personal email) without permission.
Again, I reiterate, most of us have normal 9-to-5 jobs and don’t want to jeopardize our livelihood just so someone can gain some internet cred on a forum or comment section. Don’t be like Joe Valachi, keep your mouth shut.
Nothing is more disheartening than to open up a good blog’s homepage to find either “[URL] is now marked private by the owner” or “[URL] is no longer available.”
A proposal for the rough framework of “Manosphere Omertà”
- The pseudonymous identity of a Manosphere denizen is sacrosanct, no trying to determine their real name or personal details.
- If a Manosphere denizen with a pseudonym reveals his real name or personal details to you, you take that information to the grave. No touting “who you know personally” or that you “know X’s real name.”
- For those who write under their real name, remember those that write under a pseudonym do so for a reason and that they might have more to lose than you do.
- The keeping of secrets and staying silent about them should be a point of pride amongst Manosphere denizens.
- For meetups in real life (small to large), no posting to the internet (Twitter/Facebook/Instagram/Blog, etc) of photos of another Manosphere denizen without explicit permission. This would prevent our version of “Apalachin” from occurring.
- Breaking of Omertà is unforgivable. As the breaker, your honor as a man is forfeit, and any commitments/agreements/pacts that any have with you are rendered null and void. The breaker will have no appeals for his guilt, as a man’s word is his bond.